1210, flexible, did you say flexible? When my W is stressed (which is most of the time) that word is unheard of. She so wants control but doesn't really feel she has it, these are the ways she tries to gain some. It won't work but, hey, it's her trip! What I realized later was that I didn't take a pro-active stance here. I know she is not a easy going traveller yet I chose to somehow fool myself or just neglect reality. I could have stepped in to prevent this mornings events, but did not. In the past, I have addressed such concerns with her but have found she gets so defensive that it becomes pointless. It's just one more thing where she gets to play "you are Mr. Perfect and I'm the one lacking", so I try not to go there anymore unless it really must be done e.g. the kids. Wow, if this A is making her life so much more happy then I'm sure missing something Thanks for checking in on Chris, he's just so damn emotional he's gonna screw it up for himself if he doesn't get a grip.
