So sorry you are hurting! Is this your first post or just a new "thread"? You might get more feedback over in Newcomers. There are lots of wonderful people who can give you good advice.

If you haven't already posted this somewhere else I have a couple questions: How long were you married before the separation? Do you know what caused the separation? Have you read DivorceBusting? It's always a good place to start.

Matilda