Hi SD - glad I found this thread! Trusting....takes time, lots of time. I reckon H would end this friendship with OW if you asked, but like you said it's a hollow victory if you ask for it. Remeber too you're not supposed to know he had feelings for her...you only found out by snooping, so you're in a corner. Your best bet is to keep the focus on you and your R with H, to make it so watertight that no OW will ever get a look in, be it the cow faced bag from hell or someone else. I know full well too that re-establishing the trust for the LBS is not easy....I still have my moments where I wonder if this will all blow up again, but what keeps me comforted is that I am MUCH more adept at realising the consequences of my words/actions on H, that if I do mess up I CAN ake steps to put it right and that in the end it's my happiness that comes first. My happiness consists of being true to myself and not being the unreasonable and demanding thig I was before, I didn't like being like that so I owe it to myself not to go back there. Sorry...rambling a bit now, have added you to my faves, if you need anything just shout.
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
