SD, are you snooping again?! Come on, FoundGirl, I know you can do better than that!
As far as this OW goes - it's not about her and I think you know that. If she vanished off the face of the earth this afternoon, that would be no guarantee of H's loyalty. There will always be temptations and opportunities out there, if H is looking for them. Forget about her - she's inconsequential.
If you're waiting for H to deliver you an ironclad promise that he'll never even look at another woman again, I'm afraid you're going to be waiting an awful long time. Even if that's how he feels, and even if he says so - you just can't find certainty from an external source. There will always be doubts and possibilities - I'm afraid we've grown up beyond the land of happily ever after, and we can't go back to that blissful ignorance.
You have to look inside yourself to find the strength to trust in SPITE of the inherent, unavoidable risks. That's why trust is so hard - and such a gift when you can give it - because it is always a leap of faith. I know you have that kind of strength inside of you.
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
