We are piecing it back together

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, but I am going to stop kissing her good bye, good night, etc. She does not seem to enjoy it,

My H didnt' seem to care one way or the other either (months ago), but it never stopped me. He is my H and it was only natural that I'd kiss him or hug him. Yea, it hurt a bit when it felt he could take it or leave it, but I did it anyways because I loved him. I dont' know at what extent me offering affection helped, but eventually he did open up, of course it also had to do w/him healing and getting over his MLC.

But in an R you get what you give. My C told me that my H felt worthless, that he needed lots of support. Being affectionate was one of the ways I showed I did approve of him, that he was still the man of my life.