I think we are making progress (but maybe that's just my wishful thinking)
On the other hand, at least you do have people to talk to. As far as H and I go, the only person we talk to is the C. I don't think H has talked to anyone else about it because he believes its a private matter between him and I (more likely he doens't want to be judged by his friends that would think he's an idiot - they all tell me how lucky he has to have me, if they only knew!!)
I haven't said anything to anyone either as we have just moved to a new city and no one I know is close by. I don't want to phone my best gf 3,000 miles away (she heard it all the first time around - yes, this is the second bomb. I know, what an idiot I am eh?) I just believe in marriage and I am willing to give it one last shot. There is NO WAY I will do it a third time though.
I think we are doing a lot better this time because instead of H just putting it on the back burner and pretending it didn't happen, he is actually reading some books I took out of the library - amazing in itself, wanting to go to C, initiates the R talks, asks me pretty much everyday how I am doing, and how are my feelings - I never ask him unless he asks first) - So, I guess, all in all, we are doing pretty good. Not as speedy as I would like, but ok
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)