Kirby, why was it again that you gave her the "battle plan"? I think we've already been through this, but unlike most relationship help books, I think DB/DR are best read by the LBS, and certainly not by both partners, or at least not until LONG after reconciliation. It's too easy for the WAS to go "see, it's all just some plan you got from a book. It's not real." like your W did.
Anyway, like I said, I think you know that. What's done is done. I liked how you handled it and hopefully this is a start of her being more open and communicative with you.
