Looks like you are turning your sail a bit. Good for you! I think you are starting to see a direction for yourself. That's what (I think) DB is all about. Finding a way to implement the tools in your own life. We all have different approaches, different goals. What are some of yours? What are you working on for yourself? It helps to put it out there and have some folks holding you accountable.
Well, I had so much to say after reading all the GREAT posts... but now, can't remember. So I'll just run down a list of reminders for you...
1. W in house with you - GOOD THING!! 2. Work on yourself. GAL - W will notice if it is genuinely for you 3. No R talk, back off, give room to breathe (remember, don't hang on to one that is drowning) 4. This takes time. Learn to appreaciate small changes. 5. Martyrdom isn't attractive 6. Don't try to read W - her feelings, her actions, what they mean. Even when things were 'good' you probably misconstrued things. 7. Don't let her attitude/feelings determine yours 8. Try not to snoop... it's hard
And that's one thing I thought I would share. I snoop for the perceived power and control. I think that if I have the information, I am in a place to control things. Not even close. I feel even more out of control when I snoop...
That's all for now. Running to a meeting...
Good luck. Talk soon.
Lilypad
Me 31 H 33 (8 EA/PA in 12 years) S 6 D due in September! Together 14 yrs Married 3 years Bomb - threatened this week (repeatedly)
