kirby,

GH's advice are realy to the point and they make sense. I have read a lot of his postings and sometimes they're to the point that it hurts, the truth hurts.

I am in kind of limbo right now because I am not sure where to start a new thread, piecing or affairs. Just like you, I wanted things to move fast, according to my pace, so I guess my W's EA ended a bit prematurely. Then the other bomb drops , I found out that contact was reestablished. Long story short, I was hurt, but not as bad as before. I'm a well informed LBS. So, I just kept on with my DBing, stopped snooping and just lived life things were OK when my W was around. When I'm alone, I still felt sad and shed a tear or two on some occassions. A couple of times, W brought up the R and I just validated, one time I commandeered the conversation (not bad convo at all), the next day I told W "Sorry about butting in during the convo, I should've let you do the talking". I saw the look of "wow" in her eyes.

I've been doing stuff for me and the family without looking at what it would do to the W (well maybe sometimes). But you get the picture. I did the GAL and PMA stuff. Last monday as I was walking her to the door for work she gave me a goodbye kiss, like always and before turning around said, "ILY honey". I was kind of stunned for a moment, haven't heard it in a while that I couldn't reply back.

Before all that, I kept wishing she'd say ILY, if she didn't say it that day I always said "Maybe tomorrow". Tomorrow came and I didn't know what to do about it HAhaha!

Moral of the story, it takes a while Listen to the people who gives you constant advice. Slow things down a little bit.

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