You are doing just fine. I guess I should have been more direct and less esoteric. I don't think you should be doing any kind of LRT at this point. I think you should simply just be learning to live, and learning to love yourself and her unconditionally.
To me, LRT is more about the end of the road and a fancy way to say "Hey honey, I'm leaving now...I'm walking away...yep, that's me...walking away...getting farther away now...working on ME for a change...see that honey...I don't need you anymore..."
You are not there yet. Your W IS making SOME kind of effort and that IS something to build on, but not build expectations. You need to just allow yourself the space to live and grow and also HER the same space. I know that's not what you want, but I truly believe that the most progress can be made when the WAS truly starts to feel little or no pressure to conform to the LBS's vision of how life should be...how THEY should be.
Stop thinking about LRT. You have many more resorts left to get to before the last one.
Just start thinking about what you want to do tomorrow...and then the next day...etc.
Live today. Live tomorrow and see what happens. That's the best you can do.
