Kirby,
Are you ready to set some goals for yourself? There comes a point where ruminating over the same thing is no longer productive. I keep a weekly planner, and list my five personal goals that will help me to be a better person and influence the R in a positive way. They help keep me anchored. I revise them as needed, and change the actions I will take to meet the goals as the situation changes or based on new information or perspective. They are 1) learn/practice sexual skills, 2)promote positive communication, 3) perform helpful behaviors, 4) engage in joint and my own social/recreational activities, and 5) accept and work-thru conflict.

I also list the actions I will take to meet these goals, and list what went well or what went wrong during the week.

Concerned_Listener

CL 53 W 54
M 20 yrs.
03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL
10-14' Piecing

"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."

----Tao Te Ching