My wife probably is a black and white type person. I can't say I know her anymore, so I hate to say. She will do or say something that makes me think she is very intellegent and insightful, but then she is also non-communicative and does things that show to me that she isn't seeing what to me is obvious. She is very concerned with being seen as 'competent'. It's hard to be a competent mom and wife if you leave your kids and H - she might be thinking she can't fix that. Good insight. Wish I knew what action I could take from that. Maybe just understanding.
I think GH, TL and others have suggested that I'm lacking patience and need to focus on me, not the R, for a while, so I guess your advise fits in with that. I think you are right. I need to slow down. I get the feeling from the MC that he thinks we should be talking and working on this. I'm still trying to figure out what I should do. I think your advise makes sense though, and I need to let go of her neck.
If it took you 10 months, I wonder how many years it will take me I hear you and others talk about getting to that place, but it's hard for me to imagine what that place is like. You must be incredibly strong to have done what you've done. I admire your strength and will try to copy it.
M45, W4,S15, D10,
Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06
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I hear you and others talk about getting to that place, but it's hard for me to imagine what that place is like. You must be incredibly strong to have done what you've done. I admire your strength and will try to copy it. 