Wedge, thanks for the note. I just read your first few posts, so now I know a little of your sitch. I'll make some time to read and catch up with what's going on with you and where you are now.

My W and I had a double C session last night. The first was a communications class for couples, then a MC session immediately following that. Then, in the car in the parking lot, we talked some more. Based on all that, I think I do belong in the Piecing forum, but it's close. I learned some important things that validate DB principles.

My W brought up how angry she was that I snooped on her. This was weeks ago. I have pretty much stopped snooping and am getting better at not doing it. The point is, snooping hurts our chances. It serves no purpose. Almost.

Also, even though I felt I was doing such a good job dealing with my hurt and pain, and keeping it off of my face, she still resents me for being hurting. The point here is - detach, get over it, practice DB. The WAS/MLCer feels trapped, guilty, smothered by our pain. I'll have to work much harder on this. The MC gave us a technique to try to help us both with this. Basically, he told W that the pain is mine, she doesn't have to fix me.

More a little later.

M45, W4,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06 current thread