Quote: I wonder if my H feels any guilt cuz I just can't tell, only that he tosses and turns all night long, could that be guilt? Did you "project" your infidelity on him? I mean sometimes my H accuses me of having a boyfreind, especially if I have plans and go out and leave him to watch the kids ( rarely happens). The last time I went out, he tore up all the letters and poems I had given him that nite and will punish me by also going out, but will take the girls to see her! I can most likely pinpoint the exact nite he first slept w/her and that nite he kept on getting up to the kitchen and kept looking in our bedroom (this was when he was sleeping in other room).
Mine was a one time thing. Still wrong but I didn't have an ongoing relationship with the OM. We talked at work, but not an ongoing physical relationship.
I probably did accuse him lately because he was "thinking" which involved staying out till all hours of the night and clear into the next morning, past sun up most days. While I know he wasn't cheating on me, I have to wonder what they were doing. I know if he was cheating or had, he would want me to know because he wants me to know the hurt he's feeling.
His tossing and turning could be guilt. Probably him checking on you could be as well.
My H thinks that because OM is unavailable that that's the only reason I want to make US work, which isn't the case. But I don't know how to show him that.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
