I did not read all of your posts, but I gather you were the cheating spouse. can u answer some questions for me please? My H is cheating w/ an ex co-worker, it was an EA for a couple of years until recently PA. Since he got to be so close w/ the EA ( he has never really opened up to me about any of his feelings) what r the chances he will decide to leave her? What made you feel remorse? Or is it just a selfish phase his in? H did say he was tired of everything, mrtgage(always behind), 3 kids, just wants to be alone. What was your turning point to make u return to your H?