advice needed - sex and moving out??

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Hi, Heywyre,

Thank you so much for you response.
Am I being naive in still trusting him of not havine sex with OW?
The thing is I do and still trust him in almost everything. It may seem strange
but even before he told me about OW, there were hints that he dropped. Looking back,
I was just too trusting in him to admit it (Humm, may be I do trust him too much.
But so far, his actions are showing that he is still not having sex with her
(let's just say he proves it everytime afterwards with me after he goes out with her).

Having said that, today is Jan 6, 5:24am in the morning. He was out with her (Friday night).
He texted me both 1:30 and 4am, saying he is still keeping our deal (no sex). But 4am
he sms'ed saying he's too drunk to come home, though still keeping our deal. Now,
I am going to confront him on being honest with me tomorrow. Honesty is my number one
virtue. I will need to restate that it is his choice, and not my request of him
not having sex with her, BUT if he does it with her, then he is not doing it
with me. I am so curious as to where he stayed but I won't ask. This is tough,
my heart and gut feeling tells me it is really true because he is truly a honorable man.
But I am probably thinking what you all are thinking, "Yeh, right and you BELIEVE THAT!!!"
Ha ha.

Still thinking about the moving issue. There are 2 parts. Do I let him stay or kick him out?
That part is my decision. If I let him stay, does he stay or not? I believe right now
he is not sure whether to stay or not, which is why he is asking me. Heywyre, I think
you are right in that he needs to make his decision. However, I am not sure if I should
let him stay if he chooses to. One part of me thinks it is much better for the kids,
logistics-wise and emotion-wise. And of course, this will certainly send a signal
to OW. OTOH, I don't want him to enjoy the comfort at home and think he can have
best of both worlds. May be it's best for him to know what he is missing.
What do you all think?

By the way, I hope you all have as happy a new year as it can be.
Thanks for the advice, I am going to the gym regularly now to keep the DB weight loss.
I am actually liking my body much better, which I told dh is about the only good
thing that comes out of this.

Another few hours and see what happens when he comes home.

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