advice needed - sex and moving out??

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Today is Jan 5, Friday.
Please read my initial post and comment on whether I should let him move out or not,
and the sex part. I am still confused as to what to do. DH brought it up yesterday again.
Read on.
DH went out with her yesterday night. Thursday nights have become the de facto night out
with her. On one hand, I don't really want to know about it. On the other hand, I am
the type who always want to know every detail before making a decision. But anyway,
dh has been telling me more and more details. I texted him for something and he did not
reply for another hour and apologized because he was swimming. Then less than 2 hours
later he was home. I assumed that's enough time for some dinner and that's it.
He told me if I wanted to go out on Friday night (I just joined a Friday bowling group
and showed up once so far), he would watch the kids. I said not this week and probably
made a mistake asking about his Friday plans. He said not sure yet.

Friday morning, I said if he's not doing anything, we could go out. (BIG mistake on
my part, I guess). He's still not sure. Sure enough, later he called and said
he wanted to go out Sat instead because he wants to save the weekends for family
(meaning, he is going out Friday night with OW). And this is the funny part. He
said, "Is it OK?" What AM I SUPPOSED TO SAY!!! "No, NOT OK, STAY HOME!!!". No,
I said, "No comment". I did tell him I would probably go to the gym. He
went silent because I know he always want one parent home with the kids and
the fact that both of us not being home puts the guilt on HIM.

Oh, this Friday morning he brought up the subject of staying in the guest room
again. He had been switching back and forth these two days. I told him I still
don't know. I said I would like him to stay because then we can wait to tell
the kids till we are back in the US. On the other hand, I don't know if I can
stand him going out. He told me he also ddidn't know if I could stand him
not coming home at night, etc. He said he did not want to see me SO hurt
by seeing things, which is why he may want to move out so I won't see. But
he still wants the sex, hugging, everything else???

Anyway, Sat we are taking the kids biking. Sunday our whole family has signed up
for inline skating classes so that would be fun. Feb 1 is his target date to
move out. Now I am just cramming in fun activities. Monday school starts so
I will be busy again with school volunteering work. I have not told any friends
about this A yet, though with my face one or two friends probably have guessed
something is wrong. I plan to tell one of them next week for support.

Thanks for reading