So, I want to stay at my parents house. I want to work through this.
He gets angry, leaps to her defense the best way he knows how. He comes close to kicking me out of the house.
I'm 16 years old again. When he did kick me out.
Why am I facing this again?
Because this time, I have the tools to handle the situation that I wasn't able to handle when I was 16.
This is the chance to heal the pain that I've felt since I was 16. This is my chance to act rather than re-act.
I will DB my parents.
I will clean up what my mom asks me to do. I am living in their house rent free. I haven't read the 5 languages of love book, but I'm positive that my mom has several languages of love. 1) She buys presents for people. 2) She spends quality time with people. 3) She responds well to people showing her love by spending quality time with her AND doing what she calls 'Love chores'.
So, I'll show her love in a way she can hear. I'll do the cleaning that she asks me to do.
I'll do my best to maintain a Positive Mental Attitude when I'm around her and my dad.
My dad seems happiest when I stay within my budget. It'd blow his socks off if I came in below my budget one month. He's happiest also when there's no conflict between my mom and I.
So, to DB him, I'll do my best to show progress in my finances and to keep conflict with my mom away from him. If she choses to talk to him about it, that's beyond my control. But I can chose to speak to my mom privately instead of in front of him, when an issue comes up.
I will look at this as my chance to practice DBing before I'm living with my husband.
If I can Master DBing every day with my parents, then DBing with my husband will be much easier.
