Sometimes I wonder if there is something inherently wrong with me.
But then, I cry a little, take a deep breath, and remind myself that relationships are not easy. That's why many people are turning to Michele to learn good relationship skills.
I'm living with my parents.
I'm 28 years old, separated from my husband, no children, 29000 in debt and 92 pounds over weight.
HOWEVER.
I've been healing my relationship with my parents while I've been living with them. I feel that I've made good progress with them, despite the setbacks that do occur. That will continue to occur. (Note to self: Relationships are not easy but they are worth working on.)
I've paid off 2 out of 12 debts and consolidated 4 others.
I've lost 40 pounds (through weight watchers) and so am ONLY 92 pounds overweight.
I'm healing my relationship with my husband.
I have a good challenging job at my favorite University.
Lots of good things are happening.
I'm making good progress.
But, I have to begin DBing my parents.
I'm living with my parents rent free. They and I agree that this is the best thing so that I can make huge dents in my debts in the quickest way possible.
My dad is a Bankruptcy Lawyer. He sees people from all walks of life coming in to declare bankruptcy. That adds stress because he's scared that I'll end up there too.
However, last night, my mom told me to clean up her mess. I told her she needed to be responsible for her mess and clean it up herself. She said if you don't clean up this mess I won't order stuff from ebay for you anymore.
I HATE that game.
Mom does something nice for me. A favor. However, I feel like that favor is turned into a weapon against me. Best solution, don't ask for any favors. Ever.
So, I say, "With that attitude, I won't ask for you to order anything from Ebay for me ever again."
Later last night, my dad comes and knocks on my door. He's yelling at me, but quietly, as if he doesn't want my mom to hear.
He says, "I don't care whose mess it is. Next time your mom asks you to clean up something, you damn well better do it. You are living in this house rent free. She does so much for you and you are ungrateful most of the time. You do what she asks or you can move out."
My parents do do a lot for me. An incredible amount.
And I try to show my gratitude.
My mom and I have an arguement. It's between us. But then my dad feels the need to step in and defend her. And boy does he defend her.
