He upgraded our meal to dinner & movie...now what?

[Phoenix_In_Bloom]

Clearly staying on a path of self-improvement has done wonders for you. I can imagine how difficult it is to try and DB when there's no "real" reason for your H to be around.

Exactly! That's why I've been so impatient to get him to move to my town so that I can really begin DBing.

Have you considered going and seeing him? It seems like he comes to see you all of the time (or am I reading this incorrectly?). What if you made a visit out where he is because you have some "errands" to run or something? I know you don't want to pursue too hard, so I'm not sure you'd want to do this.

Actually, I have classes I take in his town on the weekends. So, when we've had a date, he meets me at my school, which is only 20-30 minutes from him. I've driven an hour to get from my house to the school.

Because I'm working full time and in school on the weekends, my time is limited. That's why I was so excited about our 3 hour date!

So, I'm trying really hard to not pop over and surprise him for a total of 10 minutes time visiting. He's worth it...but I'd like to get more time for that amount of effort.

Also, is there anything in particular he's said to you in the past that he likes that you could do when you see him? For example, a favorite outfit, a particular perfume, some home baked brownies, etc. I would think that without coming on too strong, the few times you do see him, you have to remind him of the positive things in your R in the past...those things he's always liked.

I have worn his favorite perfume on our dates. He's commented that I smell good. Giggle.

What are his hobbies? Does he have a particular interest in something you know little about? Maybe research it, so when you talk to him on the phone you have something in common to talk about...that will draw him closer.

Well, that's a great idea. He and I used to love to play EverQuest together. Unfortunately, I can't do that, but, I could take golf or tennis lessons, when it starts getting warmer.

I'm just throwing things out there, PNT, so take what I'm saying with a grain of salt.

Jethro, these are all great suggestions. Thank you. I'll start researching and saving up for tennis and golf lessons. In the meantime, I can practice playing pool...that is something that he loved doing. And I have a pool table right at home to practice on! It'd be so great to kick his butt in a game of pool!

Hugs.