I also wanted to say that I've been very good about not calling, contacting him. Now, I've had a few urges to reach for the phone and call. My thinking is, "Gee, it won't hurt anything to just say Hi." and "I'm his wife, don't I have the RIGHT to call?"
But, I've been keeping in mind my goal. Which is to have a relationship with someone who WANTS to be with me. And the only way we'll ever know if my husband wants to be with me, is if I allow him to make that decision on his own.
And each time he calls/contacts me, that will reaffirm for both of us that he's doing what he WANTS to do.
And that's a good thing.
Where as, if I continue to call/contact him, then I'll always wonder if he's with me, just because I kept getting in his face, and nothing else came along.
And if I were to do that, I KNOW I'd just end up here again.
So, while it's been tough to not call him when those urges arise...it IS getting easier.
