I called him as I was leaving work yesterday. He sounded like an alien. I asked him if he wanted to get together over the weekend and he said that he wanted to just hide from the entire world.
Him telling me that is a first.
I asked him what was wrong and he said that he hadn't had a moment to himself in the past 2 weeks.
I said, "Well, do what you gotta do." And I was matter of fact, not whining.
He then responded, "Well, maybe, we'll see, maybe I'm just in a bad mood right now."
So, different response from me DID lead to a different response from him.
So that part was good.
However, I'm afraid that his alien reared it's ugly head because I called him that third time.
I know why I do it. If we have a good conversation and he talks to me lovingly, I want more. Who wouldn't? But in coming back for more, I put pressure on him. He feels like I'm demanding his attention, which, I am. And I've already seen the best results when I don't ask him for ANYTHING.
So, calling him more than once translates to asking him. Therefore, I'll try to only call him once a week, thurs mornings. That way, he knows when I'm calling. I set up a stable routine and perhaps by making my call predictable, I'll relieve some of that pressure. And that way, I can keep myself from calling too much by knowing that I will call him and when. It'll give me something to look forward to.
I'll see how that works. Course, since it's only once a week, it'll take a while to find out the results.
Anyone else tried this? What were the results? Was this stability good?
