mrs.h- counseling for D13 is probably a good idea. i think she is not only concerned about what the future holds for h & myself; but, she is probably a little sad over the loss of something special. unfortunately, D13 has seen me at just about my worst through all of this w/ my h...i'm sure that has alot to do w/ how she is feeling right now. i will continue to talk w/ her (as always) and hopefully h will do the things he says he is willing to do.he has to prove himself as much to her as to me.