When I was contacting him, I was doing a dance depending on his reactions. If I called him and he responded happily, then I'd call him within a day or two.
If I called him and he's respond rudely, I'd call him after 5 or 6 days had passed.
I would make sure to keep my end of the conversation light and up beat. I tried really hard to not question him about anything. Big 180 for me.
But I didn't want to go completely dark because whenever we were fighting, I'd retreat to another room. He hated it.
So, I was doing my best to do a 180 by doing a dance based on his reactions. Trying to not pressure him in anyway by calling too often.
He had told me that he wanted a separation because he felt like I was a always clinging to him (like a dirty t-shirt, to use ANS's analogy).
So, I thought I was dancing that fine line pretty well.
But perhaps what I was doing wasn't different enough. I think it was working because our interactions were becoming more and more positive on a regular basis.
For all I know, he doesn't even realize that he forgot my birthday and he thinks everything is hunky dory.
I don't know. I don't know if I made a mistake by 'helping' him too much with the job search. If I made a mistake about expressing my anger. Even though he asked if I was mad, maybe I shouldn't have answered.
I just don't know.
But right now, I don't want to talk to him. I'm afraid that if I did, I'd explode. Probably yelling and crying at the same time.
If anyone can be more objective than I, by all means speak up.
