I had a second date with my husband last night. It went well. We ate at a yummy restaurant. He paid and was a gentleman. I was annoyed that he pulled up, still smoking a ciggarette. He put his arm around me while we walked into the restaurant! I was too busy being distracted by his arm to notice any lingering cigarette reek.
He asked me if I really would move in with him when he moved to my town. I said I would. I also told him that he'd have to give up smoking before I could though. I said I didn't want to be around when his monster emerged while he tried to quit. He chuckled and said he wouldn't put me through that.
I said that his cat would have to be an inside cat, because of safety and fleas. And that I wasn't going to clean up after him. He agreed to all that. (Asking for what I want/setting up boundaries).
He said he missed me and had been thinking about me a lot more often lately. He looked like he was going to tear up. I managed to not also tear up. I was confident and "on" the whole time. He seemed shy and unsure of himself. It almost seemed like he had forgotten that he was the one who wanted a separation! Weird.
So, the seesaw has tipped to becoming more balanced. I was disapointed that he's still not taking charge of his life. He keeps letting others set his goals for him, while he just takes a back seat and waits to see how events unravel.
I was also upset that he hasn't told anyone in his family that he's going to move to my town. He said he's going to wait until he finds a job here. Sigh. I'm a bit worried that that means he's not fully committed to the move.
I was also disapointed that he didn't invite me for his christmas holiday with his family. But I didn't say anything. Trying to keep low expectations.
However, he did say that his mom doesn't like me. Which is much better than before when he used to say that she did like me and that I was just being overly-sensitive. So, it's nice that he sees what I've been seeing, but still sad.
He was surprised that I asked for her email so that I could contact her. He said he didn't know why I would want to. I told him that as long as we are still married, she's part of my family, whether she likes me or not. I got the sense that he approved.
He said that he'd try to work Saturdays during the days so that we could spend time together sat nights. I'm in class in his town saturdays and sundays, and between my class schedule and his work shedule we get to see each other only about 1 hour on sunday night, currently. So, it's nice that he's going to try to change his schedule to see me. Which also means that he's thinking about future dates!
When I called him up to thank him for a date, he responded, Thank YOU! Last time, he had just said "you are welcome."
And he asked me to call him when I got home so that he'd know I was safe.
He said he loved me before he left and held me close. While he hugged me, he told me that I smelled good and nuzzled me a little bit. No kiss though. But, I'd so much rather have that hug than a kiss. It was WONDERFUL.
I was too busy being distracted by his arm to notice any lingering cigarette reek. 
