Hey PNT - how was the holiday? Good luck on what seems to be going on but I do have one big word of caution.
I got pretty concerned when you posted how much you did for him to help get him back to where you are. Been there; done that myself over the years. I'd love to see it if you'd learn to trust in his ability to do things himself as much as reasonable. Really, it's a good thing.
Guys may rely on being mommied but they resent it and rebel too. Plus we usually get mad and feel taken advantage of even when they never asked for it in the first place.
It may just be a good thing to keep in mind. Take care.