Even my wife, who CONSTANTLY evaluated every little decision I made BTDT. I suppose like you, if I am wrong, I hear about what we missed out on by choosing "A" over "B". If I choose "B" I hear what we missed by not choosing "A". Most of the time it isn't in a critical or blaming way, but after so long even comments that were not meant to be complaints, sound like personal digs.
Rigley, I assume some of this is happening in your M. I just wanted to point it out and say not everything your W seems to complain about is a valid complaint or even a complaint so getting to the point Lil was talking about, saying "Oh" in a neutral tone of voice is helpful.
"If I make the wrong decision, they won't love me." Won't love me? or in my case sometimes, I missed something I should have seen, or making the wrong ( in my way of thinking making a fair choice when I wanted a better outcome) choice, shows that I don't have all the answers and maybe I am not as smart as I want to be or want to think I am. ( English )
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