IHJ wrote
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I know my sex drive woke up as a result of having had dominating thoughts, for ex., thinking of myself as trapped and and having no other option but to give in to the sexuality. I think my H's wishy-washy behavior contributed to my own repression.



Can you say more about this? Especially the "having no other option" part. I think it would be helpful to both me and Rigley.