I doubt the entire story about the doctor, and for you to immediately try to call him was over the top. Rig, get a grip! This woman is pushing your buttons-- holy cr@p! Do you REALLY believe this man came out and propositioned her??
She said he phrased it as a joke, and I believe he did, and that he was hoping she'd take him up on it. I've had my eye on this guy.
Think about this for a second. A guy who is supposedly a friend jokingly propositions my wife. I'm mad. I should be mad. I felt like I needed to show that I was mad. My alternative was to ignore it. That tells my wife, wrongly, that I don't care about it, but more importantly, I lose self respect.
The button she may have been pushing here is the "is he going to stand up for me" button. The old Rigley would have rationalized it and said "well...he was probably just kidding." The new Rigley says "he's dishonored you and betrayed me and I want to to smash his face in."
I hope you've resolved to avoid these accusatory conversations-- this seems very unproductive to me. When she gets into the "If you were a man..." "Why don't you..." IMHO that's your signal to end the conversation. DO NOT defend yourself. That just gives credibility to her accusations. Acknowledging her anger without trying to fix it is good.
Yeah. The bad part about me getting riled up about the slimey doctor was that I was generally riled up. I ended up being defensive.
