I hope you've resolved to avoid these accusatory conversations-- this seems very unproductive to me. When she gets into the "If you were a man..." "Why don't you..." IMHO that's your signal to end the conversation. DO NOT defend yourself. That just gives credibility to her accusations. Acknowledging her anger without trying to fix it is good.
I doubt the entire story about the doctor, and for you to immediately try to call him was over the top. Rig, get a grip! This woman is pushing your buttons-- holy cr@p! Do you REALLY believe this man came out and propositioned her??
