Perhaps it is how you go about it, and not the fact that you are doing it, that causes her to resist it.
Yep. I have always been tentative, and always read her constantly, looking for her approval. I was not confident, and probably blamed her when she didn't respond the way I wanted.
I think I could be MUCH better now. Forgive the sappiness, but I feel a lot more masculine now that I've detached my umbilical cord from her. I don't need her approval to take a breath anymore, and that makes me feel a lot more powerful.
Now, I still have concerns about how confident I'll be when I finally get the chance to make love to her again. But I think that if I take it slow, base-wise, and let the strength I'm discovering come through, things will flow naturally, like they should have when we were first married.
That's if she's able to let go of the fear. I think I can help her with that.
Try not to get hung up on it and just plow ahead being the totally hot guy you were the other night.
