Re the where do you want to eat tonight? what should I wear question?
When I ask a man one of those questions and he has a preference and states it, it makes me feel very cared for. Regarding apparel, it makes me feel noticed, like he gives a sh!t what I look like-- very nice. Re restaurant, I sometimes like NOT having to make a decision-- to be off duty. My late H put me in charge of EVERYTHING (he was a 9-- didn't have strong opinions), and it was EXHAUSTING to always be on duty.
If *I* have a strong preference as to dress or restaurant, I'm perfectly capable of going ahead. When I ask, it's because I want leadership and to feel engaged.
