Quote: So in that way, I mean D is actually silly, because she is not even doing what she wants for herself.
Yes, I agree with this. That old expression comes to mind: "cutting off your nose to spite your face." I believe she indeed wants validation, and I believe she wants to be happily married to Rigley and have a fulfilling sex life with him. She's making her needs known in the only way she can think of, especially since she's driven by anger. Well, it worked, because she totally got his attention-- in fact, where in the past she felt neglected by him, these days she is all he can think of. So far so good.
But you're right... what she says she wants (the D) is not exactly what she wants (to be happily married, if not to Rig, then to someone).
