Rigley, suggest you study the last few posts in Mojo's thread... you can learn a LOT from the insights she has come up with about how pleasing yourself can reset the balance in a relationship.
WTG, Mojo.
Man, I loved reading that Mojo (can I call you Mojo?). Glad you're getting good sex, and really glad you're feeling so good about yourself in it.
Everything I'm learning tells me that I need to pay attention to what I want, feel, need, think, and give it priority over what everyone else wants, feels, needs, thinks. In my own experience in the last few weeks I've felt the best about myself when I was aware of those things and responded accordingly.
And I know that the nagging voice in the back of my head that says I'm being self-centered and sinning by thinking this way is just plain wrong. What use is there in giving one's life entirely over to the will of another? That simply invalidates the need for the one.
