OK, honeypot, I'll stop. I AM making myself crazy. Hopefully, if nothing else, it's entertaining for you guys. I made my list of things to do for me, I called a couple of guys to go watch the Sugar Bowl tonight, and I ate some macaroni and cheese.
I'm starting to think that there really is some truth to the thought that my wife has been carrying around my anger. As a kid, I was never allowed to show anger. My dad stomped on it immediately. So not only do I suppress my own anger, I feel like everyone else should suppress theirs. Looking back over the last couple of years, that's what I see myself doing. Trying to get my wife to "let go of" (i.e. suppress) her anger. She has been expressing it in every way imaginable, from drinking too much, to hounding me, to being too strict with the kids, to wearing tight t-shirts (but man they look good) ... and I have been running around trying to appease her ... occasionally blowing up at her.