Very simular to my original issues (Hurting in Korea, I think it was under). I had control issues, anger problems and that drove a wedge between my W and I. She ended up having an EA while I was stationed overseas. I took Anger Management classes, Paranting courses, counseling with a M counselor and my chaplian. We worked through that and I am a better person for it today. Finding outlests for stress, anger and such are needed. The gym is a great place to release stress, work anxiety and anger. Biking and hiking are also great, as is martial arts. Learn techniques to help you see when yuo are close to losing control of you and design something to help you calm down and not lose control. Take baby steps with you and your W. Let her see that you are changing not just for her but for you and your family. Make these changes PERMANENT, it is so easy to backslide even after long term use of these. I hope for the best for you and your M.
