The issue in our marriage was my anger and controling her. She said that I made her and my daughter do what I wanted them to do, by being angry at her, or my daughter when they did something I did not approve of. When I was angry, everyone knew it. I agree with her, that is what I did. I have been going to see someone for anger management since October 16th and I have made a big change in my life. I love not being mad anymore about every little thing. My wife says things all of the time, like, you would have gone nuts over that in the "old days" and she seems pleased to be with me when I react differently then I would have in the past.
For stress relief, I excecise. Every day, at least for an hour. I have not missed a day since October 16th. (One day post bomb) I also work a lot. I have a demanding job. So does my wife.\
We are together all of the time evenings and weekends and get along great. There is very little intimicy however. She does not share her feelings unless I pull them out of her which is hard to do while divorce busting. (no R talk, ETC.)
