Jeff said - "I will not just walk away. If she wants to forget and totally detach, that is her call but I will not make that part easy for her. I will not just go away. I am through when I say, not her. Thanks Sheila." BBA said "I'm sorry but you are the one who comes across as selfish and controlling. Jeff's not getting his way and he's pissed."
BBA,I disagree with you. IMO Jeff is staying determined and 'still standing' as the term so many on this BB use. If you know Sheila and her story, I believe Jeff is referring to how her H stayed determined and strong when she wanted him out her of life, now they are back together and will be renewing their vows. It is very inspiring. Look up Piglet in Piecing and read up on saving a marriage. I do. I know exactly how Jeff feels, and I could make that same statement. Jeff doesn't need a 2x4 for stating his feelings, it's sure fine to do that here.
A long time ago a good friend here told me that 'you are a hard woman to leave'. Maybe that's the only reason H is still around, because I haven't given up and just let go of everything. You bet I'm tired and don't like this life as it is. Even Jeff told me that my hope is false hope. Maybe that's true and maybe that's bad, but H isn't gone and I'm not D'd. I don't do anything to make it easy for H to walk away, I tell him it's not what I want, but I'm not stopping him either.
It boils down to the fact that another person cannot make you quit, they can't make you stop feeling. Only I can do that for me, that's not something H can make me do, and only Jeff can do that for himself, not his W.
Jeff, stand strong and determined as long as you want. There are some of us who will stand with you.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
