If I hadn't known that you wrote this, I wouldn't have believed it.
It doesn't sound like you at all.
I'm sorry but you are the one who comes across as selfish and controlling. Jeff's not getting his way and he's pissed.
"I will not just walk away. If she wants to forget and totally detach, that is her call but I will not make that part easy for her. I will not just go away. I am through when I say, not her. Thanks Sheila."
What is that? Pretty scary if you asked me. Reminds me of some of the things I have read on some of the guy's threads on MLC forum when they were very early on in their anger and hurt. Might want to revisit some of the advice given to Tamashii and Toncatt and Bworl about getting past that. I would also suggesting reading anything of Was2's that you can find.
I think the concepts of forgiveness and unconditional love and detachment are all bollixed up in your head right now. I also think that you have given nothing up to God. Because you, Jeff, have already decided what's the right outcome. You seem to keep insisting that you know better.
I don't know all the history of your interactions with your wife, but just based on what you wrote here, I can envision why she rejected your gift in the way that she did. She saw it as manipulative.
Sorry for the 2x4, buddy, but I thought you were way farther down the road than this. I recommend going back to detaching 101 (on the MLC resources thread) and go through that exercise over and over and over again.
