Jeff, Thanks again for your post to me. With the exception of the fact that you are not yet divorced, I see so many similarities in our situations. And of course you are so much further along in your own journey.
I know that I need to pass through the same stages that you seem to have made it through. Today, as I mentioned in my response to your post on my thread, has been the beginnings of my anger stage maybe. The first month or so I expressed my frustration to those around me, but quickly backed off, afraid of running my wife away from me. Since I found this forum I have focused on the typical things, detaching, GAL, taking care of me and my boys, while trying to ensure that Anne knew the door was open here. I feel like I've rarely had the chance to express how mad I am about many of the same things you mentioned.
Why am I the only one of us interested in trying to save our family and marriage? Why is forgiveness something that only I am willing to do? Why did she wait to express her desire for the marriage to end until she was ready to walk out the door? Why is it too late for me to change when I didn't realize things were so far gone? All these things and more run through my head and make me so upset with her and how she has handled the way our marriage has fallen apart.
I'm encouraged by your words, even if you still have some doubts. Seems to me that you're in a good place, comfortable with yourself and what you've done to try to make things work. And I doubt that we can ask much more of ourselves.
I'll pray that both of us have a 2007 that sees us moving further along the path that God has laid out for us. Thanks for sharing.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
