Quote: Do you remember what his turn ons about you were
Quite frankly, I have never changed anything about since we were first together and it doesn't do a damn thing for him. I stopped initiating it because he said he didn't like me taking the lead. Now I lay beside him each night wondering when and if it will ever happen again.
About a month ago he told me (just as he was going out the door - leaving for work - gee thanks!!) that "when I was ready" he would like to ML to me. I just about fell off the bed. That was pretty early after the bomb. But I seriously thought about it and a couple of days later I tried to initiate it and he said "let's just take it easy and not rush things" and that ended it right there - WTF!!!
He now tells me he gets "aroused" but we don't need to rush at things. He also said (news to me) that he doesn't like kissing passionately (no tongues). Heck!!! That was one of the best parts and now that is being restricted too.
I feel like a roommate, other than the fact we sleep in the same bed. He is still very much on cuddling - he always has been, even all through the time he was having both A's. He says its the "closeness" of cuddling that he likes, which just confuses me all the more because if he likes the "closeness", listen honey, we can get closer than that
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
