Am I piecing? I am sooooo confused

[Heywyre]

Hi LN

I wish I had all the answers, but I don't. Like everyone else on here, I am struggling too.

It seems I can't figure out things from day to day, let alone what will happen "down the road"

For the time being all I am doing is taking it one day at a time, going to C and working on just becoming friends again. I think we lost that somewhere along the way and it made us drift even more. We both realize we "drifted" in more ways than just the A so we are trying to repair that part of our R in the hopes the rest will follow.

My H and I haven't even ML for.... well, as long as I can remember (roughly 3 years - yes, YEARS) so that is also another facet of our lives we have to work on. At least now H is at a point where he admits it is an important part of a R - before he used to say it was overrated. He never was one for being all that sexual but I think it is all part of a good relationship. The interesting thing is we all seem to put way too much importance on it when it isn't there and not even when it is. I guess, like everything else, we need to find that balance.

Of course my ultimate goal would be to be together as a "complete" couple again. As much as we are still together physically, we have a long way to go before we are connected in other aspects of our R. I am somewhat impatient when it comes to things like that and know I have to step back a little and take it slower and not rush things - not easy to do a lot of the time.