that's a man to you, and that's pretty much why my H was so miserable when he came back, he just couldnt' but wanted to understand why he did all those things. I kept telling him of all the other MLCs I knew of,that they are known for doing things totally out of character. He just couldnt' believe he lost control, that's what really freaked him out, how things got so out of hand, why he became so weak, weak enought to have the A.
Perhaps get him a book to understand what a MLC is, that' way he'll stop questioning his love for you, that it really didnt' have to do w/his feelings towards you but just the time came when his mind questioned his choices in life.
Quote: if we aren't together down the road
when he says these kind of things ask him if he is afraid things won't work out, chances are that's the reason, my H was also afraid, before and after he came back that we'd slip back into hold habits and go down hill again. Tell him it saddens you to hear him say it, he prob might not even be aware it bothers you.
My H also still can't understand how I can forgive him, he even confesed to me a while ago that he still expected me to extract some sort of "revenge", that when I got too mad that's what he thought I was doing, acting on the anger he thought I harbored towards him.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
