Yes, we are definitely focusing on the R too. H does seem to really want to get to the bottom of things but, at the same time, is saying things like "if we aren't together down the road ..." and that makes me a little sad but I try not to let it pull me down. I think he is just a little insecure right now (and of course so am I) but at the same time I don't want to say "don't talk like that we'll be okay" because that might put too much pressure on him too.
Instead I just tell him we're going to take it one day at a time for now.
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)