I just wanted to share that I too say many more ILYs than my husband ever has or ever will. I also grab him and hug him daily, kiss him a lot and often remind him of what is wonderful about him. Although much of that is just who I am. I give my kids and pets lots of affection too.
Sometimes I do worry about doing it too much, but then I think my husband will only appreciate me more for being so loving. Also, if he does decide to leave he'll lose something very special. Someone who selflessly and honestly loves him faults and all.... and doesn't have a lot of expectations of him. But when he does something nice or loving I do let him know how much I appreciate him. I really don't think you lose anything by giving love.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
