Sorry to have been away for so long. The power was out at our place for 48 hours - yikes, its seemed like forever. I really had to wing it at work for two days, due to all my lecture notes were in the computer and I couldn't get them out. I think I pulled it off pretty good.
On to other matters...
H and I went to the C on Thursday - it was strained to say the least. C wanted us to talk about "sacred waters in a marriage" - basically boundaries and how they affect each other. I set out what I felt were the definite do's and dont's of a relationship and, of course, H's were not quite the same. He is of the opinion if people don't have "like minds" the relationship is in trouble. I am of the opinion you don't always have to think the same, that's what makes life and relationships interesting.
Then H, who always claims to be open-minded (and likes to point out how I am "rigid, too conservative and not as open-minded as he is) said people just "can't change their thinking patterns like that" - referring to the way he's been etc.
The C (and I could have hugged him right then and there) said, "I thought you said you were open minded, saying you can't change something that you claim you would like to seems rather closed-minded to me". I was thrilled. H, on the other hand got a little quite and I could tell from the expression on his face that he was a little perturbed. He had been caught at his own game and he didn't like it. And this is the C that he claims is so good, and how he feels so much better after he talks to him.
Our homework is supposed to be talking about this same issue a little more in depth before our next session next Friday. I bet anything H will not bring it up until the day before we have to go, if at all. I know this because he avoided talking about the last homework assignment too. I asked several times throughout the week (when he was in a good mood) and he put it off continuously until the day before. I think we are getting a little too close for comfort
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
