But at the same time, please do acknowledge his efforts when you see them (his initiating conversation when he'd rather eat a brick, etc). Tell him that you appreciate ________ (fill in the blank) if you really do.
Don't be a doormat, but do give him credit where he deserves some. Important to do if there's hope to piece.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3