Heywyre, I'm glad to hear you're going to see a psychologist today. Your thoughts/feelings seem valid to me. I think it's good that you're contemplating the line of when it's enough. Sometimes, the only think that will break a pattern in a R or a person is the setting of limits, or a S.
I dpn't know the answers to your questions. I think you have to take care of yourself enough so that you can begin to sort thru the emotions, make sense of your thoughts, and see your R and H for what it is at this time. You will then be in a better place to make a R decision. It seems like you will need to determine if your H is simply continuing with his maladaptive patterns, or is at a point where he's acknowledging his problems, and is willing to increase his awareness of and face them.
Concerned_Listener
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
