Not giving up! (Take II)

[not_giving_up]

Update on the weekend:
So I called H after we got out of church yesterday to let him know that we were on our way home. He said that he was going to go play basketball with some friends and that he would be over after that. He asked me if that was ok and I said yes.

He called back around 4 or so and said that he was back from playing and was going to grab a shower before he came over. He apologized again for blowing up at me and told me not to get upset, but he was going to drive OW car over. When he was so angry the other night, he must have punched his windshield because now it is cracked. He didn't want to get pulled over for that. He said that we would discuss things when he we put the kids to bed.

He came over and we played games with the kids. He came in and sat at the dining room table while my mom and I fed the kids. Normally he would sit in the living room with our 4 month old. That was a nice surprise. Then he was carrying on a civil convo with my mom. Again, another shocker. Once the kids were down for bed, he came back into the living room and watched some tv with us. About 30 minutes later, he said that he had to be taking off in a few. So we went into the dining room and started talking. I asked him what was up and this is a jist of how it went:
Me: So what's up?
H: Nothing. She said that she isn't going home.
Me: To her H or to the apartment?
H: To her H.
Me: So all she did was lie to me?
H: I don't know. She said that she said those things to you because you asked her for a chance to work out our marriage. That she wanted to give us a shot at going to counseling and trying to work it out.
Me: I gave her the benefit of the doubt and she lied to me. I would appreciate it if you told her never to call me again.
H: She was drinking last night and probably doesn't even remember everything that she said to you.
Me: It seems like she is wishy-washy and doing alot of lying. Is that the type of person that you want to be with?
H: No. I need to go talk to her and then I will call you back.
Me: (filling him in on my convo with OW. I spilled the beans and told him everything)
H: (politely listening)
Me: I better not go near my cell because I will end up calling her and it would not be pretty.
H: I know. Just give me a chance to talk to her first and figure some things out.
Me: Was the past few nights our rock bottom?
H: I think so.
Me: Good because I don't think I can go through that again. It can only get better from here.
H: True
Me: I think we both were at a frustration point and were mentally drained. Please know that I mean what I say about us.
H: I know.
Me: (Told him about convo with S5) I do love you and would love for you to come home but I can't make you do it. I deserve a chance just like everyone else does.
H: I know you do. I will call you later on tonight or tomorrow when you get to work.
Me: ok.

Then I walked him out the door.

So it ended ok.

I know, let me have it for spilling my feelings but you know what? It was the most opportune time to do it. We had already done the yelling and D debate the past few days and things were starting to go in my direction. I have to believe that he is seeing that she is not very stable. I pray he does. How can he continue on with her when she has proven, at least 3 times, that all she does is lie? Does he need hit by a 2x4?