Not giving up! (Take II)

[not_giving_up]

So, I come back down from putting S5 to bed and layed on the couch with S4months. We were watching the OSU basketball game when my cell rang.......it was OW. I was rather rude when I answered because I thought it was another one of those, rub-it-in-my-face kind of calls. She called to tell me that something that I had said to her while I was sitting in the airport really hit a nerve with her. She said that she was with her H and kids at her old home and that she was having a good time. I had told her on Friday that people really do change and that her H deserves to be treated with respect. That she should not do the same thing to him that H is doing to me....leading me on.

So back to my convo with OW.... She said that he really had changed. That he was doing things that he had never done. That his attitude was so much different. She said that she was having a great time. She said that she had told my H that she was not coming home to their apt for a while and that she didn't know when she would. She said that she wanted H to hit rock bottom and decide for himself what he really wanted. She said that she owed it to me and my kids. She realized that if she were in my shoes, she would want someone to do that for her. She said, "I am giving you and Mr. NGU this chance to work out your marriage." More things were said and I was very kind to her. I told her that I didn't hate her, I just hated what she was doing. Her H asked her who she was talking to and she told him. He said hi to me and then said that he knew what I was going through. She said that he asked her to go to counseling and to church tomorrow (meaning today) and she said that she really wanted to. I ended up giving her some counsel while on the phone. I told her that even though things may not work with my H that she should take was is being given to her and her H, and run with it. I ended the call nicely and left it at that. I knew that it was not best to call H and see how he was seeing that the convo we had right before she called was pretty bad. I had told him that just because I get served papers, didn't mean that I had to sign.

Well, 30 minutes later my cell rang again. I didn't get to it in time so the home phone rang. It was H. Here is the jest of the convo.

Me: Hello
H: Why can't you leave F'n sh!t alone.
Me: What are you talking about?
H: You talked to her.
Me: What happened to saying Hi, did you talk to OW?
H: What is your problem?
Me: I didn't call her, she called me.
H: What did you say to her?
Me: She told me that she was with her H and kids and was having fun. She said that she was giving us this opportunity to work on things.
H: I told you I'm not coming home.
***Click*** he hung up on me.

I tried to call him back but he wouldn't answer. So I got in the van and took off. I headed over to see him because I didn't deserve to be talked to like that. I did nothing wrong. On the way there, I called a friend, OSU, and asked him if he had heard from H. He said no, but he was suppose to meet up with OSU to go out for his birthday. He was giving me some good advice and was trying to calm me down. By the time I got to where H is staying, I was pretty calm. I was just sitting in the van on a side street talking to OSU.

H finally answered his cell and said "WHAT?"
Me: J are you willing to listen to me.
H: I don't know.
Me: I did not call her J, and I didn't deserve to be talked to like that.
H: Well, she won't even answer my calls.
Me: She called me and asked me to keep the convo between us. You had made some comments to me the other day about if things didn't work out with OW.....
H: Doesn't mean that I meant everything I said.
(I could hear him come back into the house and it sounded like he was yawning.)
Me: Are you yawning?
H: NO!
Me: Are you crying?
H: I am just so pissed right now.
Me: Well, I don't what you to ruin the shot that you have sitting right in front of you. I don't want you to say anything out of anger.
H: Ok, I will call you later
Me: Later tonight or tomorrow?
H: I don't know
Me: Ok, ILY

*Click* Hung up.

I got home and went to bed. At midnight, my cell rang. It was OW. She started talking to me and then I had a beep, it was H. I told her that I would call her right back.
H:I just wanted to apologize for blowing up at you earlier.
Me: That's ok. Are you alright?
H: Yes.
Me: I just called you earlier to let you know to be careful when you come over tomorrow. It is suppose to snow.
H: Ok, I will talk to you when I come over tomorrow.
Me: Ok.

So I called OW back so she could finish her convo. She was telling me that she was following through with it. She was going to tell him to work on his marriage first and if it doesn't work, she would be there. But she told him that she hopes it works out. He came walking up her steps and she said "I am talking to J." I think he may have gotten upset. She said that if she could do it, she would pack his things and send him out. I told her that I hope she followed through with what she was saying. She told me that she and her H went out dancing and had some appetizers. She said that she had a good time.

Is this a sign? Is God answering my prayers? Did H just call me because he was on his way home and saw her car and knew that she was at the apartment? Or did he really feel badly about the way he had talked to me?

Only time will tell. He said that he would talk to me when he comes over today.

Please continue praying...I need all that I can get.